LISTEN UP! BitCHes!

妈的!09年马上就要过去了!我这两天天天都在跟时间赛跑!

周一生病,使本来短暂的一周变成了4天!

今晚帮助EQ做chat room!

让我非常的郁闷!

于是得出一个结论:

If you choose NOT to listen, no matter HOW LOUD ppl shout at you, you wont hear even a word!

WTF?!

Damn whatever!

BUT!

On the other hand!

I am wondering how to make  ppl listen to you?

so I googled it and have something not bad below!

STEPS:

  1. Make sure you have the attention of your audience before speaking. If you are speaking to a large group, say something like “excuse me,” or “I have something I would like to say.” If the conversation is one-on-one, make sure the other person has finished their statement before you begin to speak.
  2. Choose your words carefully. Present your thoughts in a tactful manner.
  3. Speak clearly. Don’t mumble or race through your sentences.
  4. Make sure the tone of your voice is appropriate for the topic of discussion.
  5. Make sure the volume of your voice is appropriate for the size of your audience.
  6. Listen well to others. Ask questions or make statements using their name, showing interest in what they say. Talk about them to build their confidence and they will gradually gain more interest in you.
  7. Captivate your audience with your inflections in your voice as you deliver your message.
  8. Keep eye contact. If you are addressing more than one person then make sure you look at every person fairly. Try to “bring them in” with your eyes.
  9. Modulate your voice to give colour to your talk. This takes a lot of practice. The results can be stunning. Try it

TIPS:

  • Part of effective communication is being a good listener. If you want people to listen to you, be sure you are listening to them as well.
  • You may need to use different techniques with different cultures. As with Italian or French culture, they stereotypically tend to talk loudly, quickly, and with their hands. To get a word in, grab their hands or do something to keep them down. This signals them that you want to say something.

Warnings:

  • Be careful not to be confrontational when speaking.
  • Be careful not to make offensive remarks.
  • Be aware of your body language while you are speaking.
  • Be careful not to be too pushy. Know that people will not always agree with what you say.
  • Speaking slowly usually makes people concentrate on what you’re saying. Speaking quickly makes it look like you already know that you won’t be listened to, so you try to get all the words in.
  • Maintain eye contact

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